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When I get bored I get crafty. So it figures that temporary funemployment has lead to an excess amount of accessory-makin’ from repurposed or thrifted goods.

This fashion story stars myself, my beautiful foster daughter Sunflower, and the closet I share with my husbear.

From left to right/top to bottom:
1. glam collar shirt (old jewelry bits + thrifted shirt)
2. sock garters feat. thrifted shoes (pleather & hardware from old belts + suspenders)
3. disco daytime shorts (thrifted ugly men’s pants + buttons)
4. brown leather cuffs (thrifted belts + snaps)
5. black lace t-top (lace from Joann’s)
6. black & gold rings: leather belt ring & leather rhinestone rings (home-dyed scrap leather + watch hardware + sparkly bits from an old shirt)
7. black leather clip-on bowtie feat. redesigned thrifted 2-tone blouse (home-dyed scrap leather + snaps)
8. sock garter detail
9. brown leather clip-on bowtie feat. redesigned thrifted leopard top (leather scrap + snaps)
10. black leather strap cuffs (leather + hardware from 3 belts)



Anonymous asked: There's no need to say "male identified" when talking about trans men, it's highly invalidating imo. What do you call anyone else who identifies as male? Male. Plain and simple.

Actually, I call anyone else who identifies as male ‘male identified’. I feel that ‘male identified’ includes nonbinary people who identify to some extent as male, whereas ‘male’ or ‘man’ do not.

I’m sorry I offended you. I can certainly see how that terminology can be invalidating, and I appreciate your pointing that out to me. I wish to keep my language here as inclusive as possible, and part of inclusive language is obviously not using any language that is potentially hurtful.

I will try to find a way in the future to include nonbinary people without using terminology which hurts anyone else.

(Btw, if anyone has suggestions for better terminology, I would love to hear them. As a nonbinary trans* person, I’m very sensitive to some aspects of language, but mine is only one perspective, and having other perspectives helps to make language actually inclusive, and not just what seems inclusive to a single person.)

Navigating Masculinity as a Black Transman: “I will never straighten out my wrist.” by Kai M Green


Please read and share this article! 

Much love to Kai M Green for sharing this with the world. 

This article is not 100% relevant to this blog.

But this is a very good article that deals with gender and sexuality issues and how they intersect with race issues. This is important for everyone to know at least a little about.

And it does deal with the perception of feminine coded presentation (by which I mean behavior and/or appearance) in male identified individuals. So it is at least slightly on topic?

(Source: nyatcha)




Best Boylesque for 2013 at Burlesque Hall of Fame Weekend-Ray Gunn (performing here at Texas Burlesque Festival)


Best Boylesque for 2013 at Burlesque Hall of Fame Weekend-Ray Gunn (performing here at Texas Burlesque Festival)


Men In Heels. This video is probably the greatest tribute to the Spice Girls. Ever.




please sue me (more of the pictures I took of graeme) :)



Anonymous asked: What does "male-of-center" mean?

"Male-of-center" is a term i use, derived from the fairly common "masculine-of-center" used to describe masculine-leaning trans* folk (mostly afab, in my experience) and feminine-of-center, which seems to be less common.

Masculine-of-center can cover, to my knowledge, trans* men, nonbinary people who identify and present closer to masculine than feminine, and butch women. Basically it covers the whole spectrum of masculine people who aren’t cis men. It’s used to group all these people together when it’s relevant to do so, without assigning an identity to any of them that is mislabeling.

The reason I use male-of-center here is that some femme trans* men and femme nonbinary people who ID as men to some degree feel that transmasculine or masculine-of-center is inaccurate for them and erases their femmity. Femininity and masculinity are typically, in modern white supremacist western culture, considered to be opposites. This was the best way I came up with to express the male identities of such people without coercively assigning them as ‘masculine’.

This language is still not without it’s flaws. ‘Of-center’ relies on a concept of gender as a spectrum on a single plane, with a neutral center and masculinity and femininity or maleness and femaleness on either side. It’s a simplification and it erases many nonbinary identities.

Also, using male and masculine to mean different things relies heavily on concepts of sex vs. gender that do seem to work at the level of trans* 101 but which actually are busted and oppressive at any higher level of discussion and in the practical application to real people.

Sex v. gender terminology does still work for some trans* people, however, and no individual should be shamed for describing themself in the way that works best for them, so long as they aren’t appropriating someone else’s language and experiencing.

TL;DR Male-of-center means identifying as a man and/or as male to some degree, though not necessarily identifying as masculine.

I hope this answer is what you were looking for, anon, and I hope this has made sense to everyone. If anything I’ve said here offends anyone, please let me know. I want to use the best language I can here, and to be inclusive of everyone who has any interest in being included here.




Matt Knife photographed by Jeff Silverman


Matt Knife photographed by Jeff Silverman




“I’m not ashamed to dress “like a woman” because I don’t think it’s shameful to be a woman.” -Iggy Pop

“His manager asked “Ig, why are you wearing a woman’s dress?” and Iggy replied “I beg to differ, this is a man’s dress.””

Iggy fkn pop, ladies and gentlemen

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